Whom did I get herpes from?
Question: I believe that my boyfriend infected me with HSV – II. When I confronted him, he blamed by ex for the infection. I am very confused. Is there any test that can help me determine if it was my ex who infected me or my current partner? Please let me know of a test that could distinguish between my ex-boyfriend’s strain and my current boyfriend’s strain. If yes, where can I get it done?
Answer: This is certainly one of the most commonly asked questions about herpes. I completely understand what is going on in your mind. However, I would like to make it clear that there are no commercially available tests that could help you differentiate between two strands of the virus.
If neither your ex nor your current partner have a documented HSV – II negative test prior to getting into the relationship and a positive post – test that would assist in determining the timeline of infection, there is absolutely no way of knowing the individual source of infection. However, if your ex has tested negative for the HSV – 2 antibodies by IgG, you can be sure about the fact that isn’t the reason for your condition.
If the underlying question is about your partner’s disloyalty, then you need to address the issue. However, we do not think a herpes diagnosis can be considered as a confirmation of disloyalty. It is worth mentioning that barely 10% of the adults with genital herpes are aware of their infection. Oftentimes, a positive test is a surprise.
Perhaps, counseling may be of great help. We also advice you to get in touch as an STD expert or visit any STD care center that can help you deal with the infection. Websites such as PositiveSingles.com are a great platform to connect with STD counselors and industry experts.